09 Jun Honestly!

Honesty is one of the top goals we have for our kids. None of us wants to raise a child who lies, who can’t be trusted. I know that being lied to by one of my children makes me angry more quickly than anything else. It signals to me that I can’t trust my child, that there is something wrong with our relationship.

It turns out, though, that it’s parents we have to watch out for.   BabyCentre in the UK conducted an online survey of 1000 moms to understand the “Secret Life of Mums.” Moms, and probably dads too, although they weren’t surveyed, lie quite a bit it seems.

Over half the 1000 moms admitted to lying to other parents rather than being truthful about negative parenting experiences.  It doesn’t just stop there.    One-third of moms lied to their midwife or healthcare provider. And over two-thirds lied to their child for the sake of ease.

Other “dirty little secrets”, according to BabyCentre, is that sometimes we need to cut corners – but we’re loathe to let others know that we’re not perfect parents. For example, 9 out of 10 moms said they use TV to keep their kids occupied, and 1 out of 3 of moms replace bedtime stories with TV.

We love our kids, sure. But most of us are not angels. 2 out of 5 moms admitted to some feeling of dislike for their child. And 3 of 4 working moms reported relief when Monday morning rolled around and they could return to work.

The bottom line here is not that parents lie and don’t always do the best they can for their kids. The bottom line is that parenting is tough!  Just know this, when you’re having one of those days (or weeks) where you feel as though you just can’t get it together: You’re not alone…not by a long shot!!

So remember to give yourself a break and look at the big picture. You don’t have to be perfect to be a great parent!